We are always told "there is no such thing as bad publicity", and it was Fall Out Boy who once said "I don't care what you think as long as it's about me", but the truth is negative comments hurt.
I know, as a blogger, negative comments are kind of an occupational hazard. Like sliced up fingers if you're a hairdresser. I've chosen to put my thoughts, feelings and opinions out into the world and I have to deal with whatever the world chooses to throw back.
I personally, am not a very opinionated person. Okay, that is a lie. I have opinions but I choose to keep them to myself. I am a people pleaser. I hate to anger or upset anyone, so when I meet someone with clashing views I tend to nod, smile and ignore the anger bubbling up in my stomach. I hate to argue so I just keep schtum.
But of course, everyone has an opinion, and no-one opinion is right or wrong. I accept that. But I personally choose to keep any negative opinions to myself, especially when they are on something someone has worked hard on. This piece is actually about a negative (and in my opinion, greatly unfair) opinion expressed at another website, but this actually relates also to an incident last week.
I believe if you are to be critical, it has to be constructive. But I found last week that not everyone agrees with this. My class had a peer-to-peer review of our assignments and I while I ensured that every negative comment I made was not only constructive, but came after at least one positive one, I found that some people did not seem to have anything positive to say about what I had written.
Why is it that we can ignore praise so quickly, but criticism eats into us and forces everything positive to feel undone?
I know I'm just being a sulky little blogger who is upset that one person doesn't agree with her, but I felt the comment was more personal than merely negative, and it that element that angers me. I don't exactly feel upset, I'm more angry and confused.
My blog is just a drop in the ocean- I get the occasional negative comment, but my blog is definitely not controversial, or popular enough to award any kind of backlash.
So how do you cope with negative comments on something you've done? I'm not going to dwell on this too much, I am not going to let it get me down, and it is definitely not the first time this has happened and it certainly won't be the last. With the internet in general everyone thinks they are entitled to their opinion and that is what drives me crazy. People hide behind their computer screens when they wouldn't ordinarily say anything, and what is the point really?
Like I said, I'm not argumentative. I don't get involved in any kind of debate and rightly or wrongly perhaps, prefer to keep my mouth shut and keep the peace.
But it is hard when amongst 52 comments there are 51 that are positive, but it's that one negative one that has a lasting effect.