Do women really dress for male attention?
How to say this without it sounds wrong.. Since studying feminism I've realised I'm not as much of a feminist as I thought I was.
Okay that still sounds wrong.
Basically, I do agree with the rights of women but I don't agree with everything that comes up in class.
Some of the ideas are a little too extreme for my liking, does that make sense?
Today for example, we talked about the "fact" that "women dress to impress me."
I completely disagreed.
I said that women dress to impress other women.
And then the argument went in the argument that women may dress to impress other women, but that is because they are competitive over men.
I don't agree with this either.
As I woman, I don't dress the way I dress just to get men.
If I wanted to get men I'd just walk around naked.
Most men could sit and talk to for you an hour and not know what colour your tshirt was.
But a woman, or most women, would be aware of what you were wearing and would make assumptions based on it.
Sure, women are competitive. Of course we are. Today it was brought up that boys fight and that girls are mean.
But I don't believe it's always about men.
I wear my aviator jacket to get the approval of other stylish women. Women who know about Burberry Prorsum's legendary-status aviator jacket. Women who would nod with approval at my style choice.
I dress to feel good about myself.
And yes, I dress for attention sometimes, but not really for the attention of men.
Guys here in particular have no idea what is fashionable or care how a girl is dressed.
(We discussed how it seems that us Europeans care much more about how we dress.)
I don't accentuate my waist and hide my hips to attract men. I do it to make me feel better.
Is it a completely inconceivable notion that I might want to do something that isn't related to gender or sex?
According to my feminism class, yes.
They would argue that underneath it's all about men, male approval.
I don't write this blog for men, I write it for women.
I don't post pictures so guys can drool over me.
I post them so girls can feel inspired to express themselves through their clothes.
And if guys read this, great, I hope you enjoy it.
But the truth is, this is for myself and girls like me
I do think that some women dress for men, and we all do sometimes.
But I dress to look and feel good. And men do not feature in that.
I hope this makes some kind of sense.
It was just something I wanted to get off my chest.
I feel that both Lauren and I are aliens in our feminism class sometimes.
We dress nicely and with effort, we do our hair and makeup.
And I think some girls think this means we can't be feminists.
And on the extreme end of the scale, maybe that is the case.
But how does whether or not I wear makeup affect my feelings on women and their place in society?
Some people argue that you can't be a feminist and be feminine.
How is that not a complete contradiction?
I'd be interested to hear your opinions on this.
I'm sorry I'm not getting my point across especially eloquently.
This is kind of my thoughts thrown onto the screen.
I hope you can make some kind of sense of them.
I am a feminist, just a different kind of feminist to some of the people in my class.
But that does not make me any less of a feminist.