Quite often, just before we're about to go to sleep, either me or my boyfriend will pose a question which ensures we stay awake for at least another half an hour.
Curled up in bed last night I casually asked, "do you believe in fate?"
My boyfriend then went into an elaborate discussion of the retrospective nature of "everything happens for a reason" (he's a Philosophy minor), and it really made me think about the topic.
I'm not going to go into it in the blog world, but my boyfriend and I met through a long series of chance encounters and coincidences. Us meeting was the result of so many little things which could quite easily have not happened. But they did. And these tiny little details which could have meant nothing brought me together with someone who has completely changed my life. Is this all a matter of chance, or were they meant to happen?
I'm horribly insecure and awful at making decisions, so the premise that "everything happens for a reason" really works for me. It means that I can make a decision and feel safe that everything will be okay. I means that I can look back over my past mistakes and know they made me who I am today.
Of course, as I said last night, I have no idea yet if my boyfriend and I were "meant to be", and I'm not even sure if I believe in soul mates. But I do believe in two people who just click with each other meeting by chance and it being something amazing. But what would have happened if we hadn't met, if these little things hadn't happened? Would there be another fate waiting for me, or would something always have been missing?
Is fate just something we use to justify our failures and mistakes? It is a way of convincing ourselves that things are just "meant to happen"? Is it down to religion, or spirituality or simply a faith that everything will be okay?
I haven't done a musing post like this for a long time, and I'm sorry to those of you who are new to my blog and haven't experienced anything other than photos of what I'm wearing. Sometimes I just like to express how I feel to the world and this is my creative outlet.
So what do you think? Are things "supposed" to happen? What happens if they don't? Is there such thing as fate?